I really love answering questions from my friends, fans, and family. Answering questions is a wonderfully powerful way to serve my mission: help as many people as possible overcome doubt, let go of excuses, and realize your epic potential. One of the questions I get nearly every day is, "Whitney, how do you stay sane?"
It's a good question. Really.
The answer is simple: I take care of myself. Though the answer is simple, in practice, it's actually pretty hard. In order to prioritize taking care of yourself, you have to believe you're worth it, prioritize it above other things, and realize how important selfcare really is.
First of all, because I know this is the central issue that is most likely to stop you and least likely to be addressed, understand this right now: you are worth it. Say it out loud right now: "I am worth it!" Say it over and over, say it loud, say it often. Because seriously, you are worth it.
Now that you know that you are worth it (if you're still struggling with this one, write it down and put it on a post it note so you can remind yourself all day every day from now on), you have to prioritize taking care of yourself.
You can't put self care on "the list" with things like changing that lightbult that's been out for two months. Taking care of yourself is the number one most important thing you must do. You can't take care of your family if you aren't healthy. You can't do your job if you aren't healthy. You can't even worship to your fullest if you aren't healthy.
You know you're worth it, you've made it a priority. Now you must understand why taking care of yourself cannot be put off.
Self care is about more than you, it's about everyone. We are all at our best when we are each at our best. When you don't take good care of yourself, you deprive the world of your best.
Here's how I make sure to put myself first everyday, so I can stay sane and get everything done.
I can't understate the power of regular meditation. It's one of the hardest thing for me to convince myself to do, yet one of the most powerful. Which is why I make a point of doing it first thing in the morning. Something about taking the first ten minutes of my day sets the tone for making sure my needs are met all day long.
I Get Plenty of Exercise
I studied two subjects in college, kinesiology and neuroscience. Kinesiology is like applied biomechanics, and neurscience is the study of how our brain works. I studied (still study) the two together because I wanted a scientific understanding of the mind-body connection.
To make a long story short, I found that the more you use your body, the stronger your brain becomes.
If your goal is strengthening your body and mind through physical exercise, not all activities are the same.
When you're chosing your workouts, remember this: reactivity equals responsivity. Which simply means the more reactive your workouts, the more brain activity that's required to complete it. I focus on workouts that require cross-body movement, balance, and full range of motion to make sure my body is getting the most complete workout, but that my brain is also.
My favorites are dancing, martial arts, and yoga.
I Sleep On My Own Schedule
Some people can wake up at 5 am every morning to go for a run. Some people can get all the sleep they need in four hours a night. Some people can eat anything they want and never gain weight.
Good for them.
I don't know about you, but that's not how my body works. I sleep in late, need eight hours nightly, and can't even look at cake without gaining five pounds. If I'm awake at five in the morning it's because I haven't gone to bed yet.
And yet, I've never lost out on anything important enough to hold me back by not being awake at the crack of dawn. And when I am ready to face the day, I am rested and powerful.
Know who you are, be who you are, and you'll have everthing you need to win every day on your own schedule.
I Get Outside
I love being outside. Fresh air, plenty of sunlight, and the sensation of freedom and connection. Yes, I live in the middle of the woods. It's quiet, peaceful (unless you count my wild children), and spacious. But I didn't always live here.
Getting outside often is important no matter where you live. Don't underestimate this one. Fresh air and sunshine are medicinal.
I Get Lots of Time With Family
I started working for myself for two reasons: more time and more money. I wanted more money for obvious reasons - namely freedom. I wanted more time to be with my family.
I love hanging out with my family. I hate the feeling that I might have missed important little things throughout the day. Perhaps the greatest gift I've made for myself by taking control of my life is being able to incorporate my husband and children in everything I do.
To stay healthy and happy, I make sure to get a lot quality time with my family.
I Stay Hydrated
For me, there are three times of day: coffee time, wine time, and water time.
I know how hard, how absolutely daunting, working selfcare into your routine can feel when it's not something you're used to. I know it can feel like a frivilous waste of time, even selfish, to refuse to do anything until you've taken a moment for yourself.
But it's necessary. The more you take care of yourself, the closer you come to success. Plus, we are all at our best when we are each at our best.
And remember, now, you are worth it.
Hi! I'm so glad you found your way to this blog. I'm Whitney Raver, and I'm on a mission to help spirited, ambitious individuals like yourself overcome doubt, let go of excuses, and finally realize your epic potential.